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Nine Mistakes Made After Engagement

Congratulations on your recent engagement! As you’re enjoying the glow and excitement of your new commitment to each other, consider the nine most common mistakes made by recently engaged couples. Make your plans for the perfect wedding while minimizing your stress, frustrating and disappointment.

1. Not taking the time to envision the details of your wedding. When will the big day happen?  Where should it be?  Who will be there?  How formal will the event be? What are the prior commitments of loved ones, friends and the availability of the location and vendors desired?  It is your wedding so take time now to think through the details.  Many couples today are waiting longer to get married, but aren’t taking enough time to think through all of the details (so they’re more stressed out and end up settling for things instead of getting just what they want).  Don’t let this happen to you.  To have the wedding of your dreams, a lot of thought and planning are required, yet fortunately, there are professionals who can help you think through things you may not have considered (since they help couples plan their weddings all of the time).  At Arizona’s Bridal & Formal, we can introduce you to wedding vendors that can help you plan a wedding day you’ll always treasure and no one will ever forget.


2. Neglecting to decide on a budget and keeping track of your expenditures.  Very few people like budgets or budgeting but not having one can add a significant burden to your present and future financial situation.  There are literally endless options to a wedding and unfortunately, how elaborate many of the details are comes down to how much money you are willing to spend (the average wedding in America costs around $19,581).  Your budget may fluctuate as you decide on the actual venue and find out who has committed to help you cover the costs but it is critical that you begin with a dollar amount in mind.


3. Forgetting to create a wedding timeline and taking action on the details. A common mistake made by many couples is that they wait too long before taking action on important details for their wedding.  To receive a free planning calendar for your wedding, simply email us at and include “FREE Wedding Planning Calendar” in the subject line or call our store to schedule an appointment and we’ll send you one free with appointment confirmation.  With this calendar or date book, you can set specific dates by which you want to get things accomplished.  Ask wedding vendors when things need to be set in order to be ready for your big day.

4. Trying to do it alone. Instead, divide up the planning and assign tasks that need to be completed.  Once you have completed your timeline, you should split up the tasks that need to be completed.  Both of you should be involved in the planning of the wedding.  Your mother and bridesmaids can also offer invaluable assistance in the planning.  Once a task has been completed, check it off so you don’t end up doing the same thing twice!  We have also put together opportunities for you and your fiancé to meet with many of the local wedding vendors so you can get help from helpful professionals who care as much about your wedding as you do.  Check with our store for the next event you could attend to get some help with planning out all of the details for your wedding.

5. Assuming the wedding will just work itself out and not scheduling enough time to work on your wedding details. Many brides find it very helpful to set up a specific day of the week when they’ll focus on their wedding plans.  If your engagement is not as long, you may want to spend a couple of days each week or plan several weekends where you can focus on what needs to be done.  Staying organized and communicating effectively are essential to staying sane and getting it all done.

6. Forgetting how many people you can accommodate at your reception site. As you put together your guest list, think about how many people you’ll be able to accommodate for your ceremony and reception site.  Your food and beverage budget may also be a factor in who you invite since more guests often means more money.

7. Waiting too long to choose bridesmaids and groomsmen. The earlier you decide and ask, the more time you’ll have to let them help you plan the details of your wedding.  Think through and pick who you will choose to honor as your attendants.  Choose individuals who have been your friends through thick and thin and who you’ll enjoy spending time with as you plan and prepare.  It is a good idea to let them know what will be involved and expected since many of them will be contributing their precious time (helping to plan the details) and hard-earned money (purchasing gowns, renting tuxedos, etc.).  They’ll be honored by your request and your friendship will grow deeper as they participate in your special day.

8. Forgetting to take time to relax. If you find yourself getting stressed out, take some time to recuperate.  Spend a day completely away from the planning.  Have fun.  Relax.  Enjoy spending time with your fiancé.  Create special moments that will deepen and enhance your relationship.  Forgetting to focus on what is important will cause you a lot more stress than it is worth.  Don’t feel like you have to do everything in one day.  Pace yourself.  Keep things in perspective.  Don’t forget the excitement that led you to your decision to get married in the first place.  Make sure you spend time together and take care of each other in the process of planning your wedding.

9. Waiting too long to order your wedding dress or bridesmaid dresses. Bride’s Magazine recommends that you purchase your wedding gown at least a year before your wedding.  Determine what you are looking for early.

by Lauren James Bridal